Interesting article up at Sunday Express. It's an online paper I think from the UK, but someone tweeted the link and I thought I'd check it out because if it's anything I hate more, it's the school system. Granted, bullying comes from home but school is where a child is forced to go, thus has to face the bully five days a week.
For some kids, bullying is very traumatic, yet we as parents feel we can deal with the problem, but the kid still must go to school. Must be in the "facing your fears" manual in your life's plan manual. I certainly must have aced that part as school was where I faced my only fears. On a day to day basis.
I think in that manual somewhere it says kids must go to school to become social. Balderdash. I can think of a million other ways to teach my kids to become social. I told my kids (who incidentally are grown) that if I ever had the chance to do it again, I would home school them. No ifs ands or buts. And if it was a subject I didn't know too much about? I'd hire a tutor. Or something.
About a year ago, a kid from my son's school asked how Ryan was doing. I said fine. Didn't even want to bother getting into the Marfans thing. The other guy who was with him said, "They really treated him bad." I said, "What are you talking about?" And they went on to tell me how one kid stuffed my son in a trash can at school.
I know we can't protect our kids from unpleasant situations 24/7, but can you imagine what went through my head when he told me that? And I daresay anything was done to the kid.
I don't know, maybe your school system is better than the one my son went through and it's not just this, but there were so many instances (guns on buses for one) that I knew if I ever had to do it again, I would home school them.
I was bullied relentlessly from 5th through the 9th grades. After that, it still happened, but I had enough friends to insulate me from the worst effects. The good news is that I used the experience to learn compassion for others.
ReplyDeleteBut if we want schools to do something genuinely effective about bullying, then we need to change the culture radically to accept those who are different as valued. It was better when my daughter was in school, but not by much. Until those who don't fit the norm are regarded as equal with those who do, bullies will have their prey.
Anne Louise Bannon
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