Wednesday, October 12, 2005

Fighting Your Fear of Success, One Step at a Time

I was over on Kathy's blog this morning and it really did make me think. She basically said that people are afraid to follow their dream because of their fear of success. And I could see where I could relate to this 100%.

I think it's human nature to get into a zone where everything is comfortable, even if it's not where they want to be. Take my situation. I've lived in this house for ten years. I could go on and on about what's wrong with it, but it's a rental and my landlord is pretty good about my staying here with three dogs, so I really don't want to rock the boat.

But, wouldn't it be nice to be able to have it rain without it coming into your utility room and having to spend hours baling yourself out? Not to mention the appliances it's ruining. How about that sink in the bathroom that won't work or the tiles falling off the wall? How about it being so small, you have to walk sideways to walk through certain parts of the house or you'll run into an appliance, some other odd furniture or one of the three dogs?

Yeah, I'd love to live in my own house and smell "freshness" instead of mold and mildew. As my friend, Michael, used to tell me, figure out what you want and then do what you have to do to get it.

Well, in order to have a nice house of my own, to get it involves selling books, selling LOTS of books and then that might not even do it.

However, that comes with success. I know what I want (new house) and what I have to do to get it, but sometimes it scares the bejeebies out of me.

Those that get million dollar contracts, do you realize what they have to go through for it? Interviews, appearances, author talks? Why does this scare me more than having the devil himself in front of me?

Maybe in time, I'll be able to get to the point where it doesn't bother me. I have already done radio shows, something I thought I'd never find the guts to do, so maybe I need to take it one step at a time.

Sometimes I have to be thrown into a situation and forced to do something, but one day I'd love to be able to get up and say hey I'm going to be a success today and do whatever it takes to get it.

And, just maybe, someone will hand me a million dollar check and I can buy that house I've always wanted. Bet your tabookas I'll do whatever it takes to keep that house, too.

Yeah, I guess success has its perks.


  1. I saw a quote once that said that as long as we aim for the stars, we'll at least make it to the moon. Even Stephen King had to start somewhere, righht?

  2. Wonderful words of wisdom. Even the moon doesn't sound bad right now. Wonder if they allow pets?

  3. You asked why does this scare you more than the devil himself? If you don't follow your calling, that is the devil facing you. We're all confronted with our fears but it helps to be able to talk to other writers about the scary parts when we feel the most insecure and scared. Because, as much as I wish it wasn't so, I've had to face a new fear every step along the way. And the ones coming up are the scariest of all. :)

  4. Wow, you are simply an amazing woman. We'll follow our dreams and face those fears together! BTW, has your new agent started sending your mss off anywhere yet?

  5. What a wonderful thing to say. That means a lot to me. Friends like you are especially important as we move forward in this business because along with success come the critics! :)

    I'll post more updates when I can.


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